What is the Love Letter and Wine Box Ceremony

The Love Letter and Wine Box Ceremony:

Are you looking for an idea that will attract the attention of your guests, add some elegance to your wedding and make it worth reminiscing for years to come? You can call the love letter wine box ceremony an alternative to the commonly practiced Unity Sand and Unity Candle Ceremony. The following article is a vivid description of how to perform the traditional Wine box ceremony and ideas to help inspire you to write your love letter to the future love of your life.

love letter and wine box ceremony

My name is Julie Nourish. I am a mobile Las Vegas wedding officiant.  I have been performing the love letter and wine box ceremony since it became a popular addition to the wedding ceremony.

I have experienced the wine box ceremony in many different ceremony styles. I often get questions from my wedding couples asking what this ritual addition is and what it means. I decided to write this article as a resource to assist and educate with creative ideas and information.

Love Letter Wine Box Ceremony explained:

As the most popular and equally romantic wedding day ritual, Wine box ceremony entails writing romantic letters to each other and storing them for the future. The two sealed letters are tucked away, inside a special box, along with a bottle of wine, and the box is tightly sealed.

The original idea is to open it when the couple experiences some misunderstandings and fights. However, as a suggestion, why not be more positive and focus less on the misunderstanding and fights in your relationship and more the celebration aspect?  I think it’s a great idea to open the box on one of your wedding’s anniversaries.

Items you will need for the ceremony

  •      A wooden wine box
  •      A bottle of your best brand of wine
  •      Two sealed love letters
  •      A CD of your favorite love songs and your best photo
  •      A hammer with nails

Ideas to inspire the letter writing:  Here are some ideas and questions to ask yourself to help you prepare and be inspired to write the letter to your intended.

  • What were your first thoughts when you saw your partner for first time?
  • What is your favorite attribute about your fiancé?
  • How did this affect your life?How did your life change after you met your fiancé? How did you change?
  • How has your fiancé inspired your hopes and aspirations?
  • What are the reasons you fell in love with your partner?
  • Why did you choose to marry your fiancé?
  • How has your fiancé changed you – explain in the letter and give praise.

Reasons to open and share the contents:

1.    Open the box on your 5th wedding anniversary – After five years together you have gone through a great deal together.  By this time you will have a lot to share, remember and talk about. This is truly a romantic way to remember the things you cherished about each other from the beginning of your relationship.

2.    Open it when problems exist – You sit down together, open it and uncork the wine as you unseal the two letters. I have read explanations that suggest you to move to different rooms to read each respective letter.  I think it may be more suitable to read it in the same room.  After all, the point is trying to work out your problems with the other person. Wouldn’t it be better to read through them together and remember the reasons you love each other and got married in the first place?  The idea is to bury the hatchet and focus on why you chose to be married to each other and spark the remembrance of the love you held when you began your wedding journey together.

Perfect ritual: The feelings and romantic sentiments expressed through writing will invariably restore parity and help you get along again. It is perhaps a perfect marriage ritual as it elicits memories of the seemingly blissful past and why you chose each other.

Don’t peak! Remember, both letters shouldn’t have been read by anyone before the ceremony. The box will then be sealed ceremoniously with everyone including the Officiant driving one of the sealing nails. If you had used a lock-and-key box, the couple would be the ones to lock it. 

Practice: I have noticed it does make a difference to practice how you will stand and where the table will be ahead of time.  The practice helps your photos turn out better if you consider the photo angles that look best before the big day

Table placement: Make sure the table is not positioned too low down. It’s better to have the table be waist height. You both want to be able to stand at the table without being in awkward positions and a table that is too low makes the nailing or locking part too awkward. Also, take into consideration how the audience will view the ceremony and position yourselves on either side of the table during the ceremonious sealing of the box. If you do this your guests will be able to have a great view and also take memorable photos for you.

A Sample Love Letter and Wine Box Ceremony

Minister: At this time I will ask ________ and _________ to walk to the Wine box.

_____ and _____ have chosen as a couple to have a Love Letter & Wine Box ceremony. This box contains a bottle of wine and a love letter from each to the other.

The letters written by __________ and __________ describe among many things, the good qualities they find in one another, the reasons they fell in love, and their reasons for choosing to marry.

The letters are sealed in individual envelopes. Neither person has seen what the other has written. They have created your very own “romantic” time capsule.

_________ and __________, it is recommended that you keep the box in a place of honor prominently displayed in your home as a constant reminder of your commitment to each other.

You may decide to open the time capsule on your anniversary if you ever experience insurmountable hardships in your union, open the box as a couple and perform the ritual.

At whatever time you decide to open it, separate from each other and read the letters you wrote on your wedding day in private first. By reading these love letters you will reflect upon the reasons you fell in love and chose to marry each other here today.  

Then after reading your letters sit and drink the wine together and reminisce and speak of the good things to come and the blessings you have.

You may now seal the box together.

In closing, perhaps you will be inspired to have a love letter and wine box ceremony for your wedding.

I hope this article has both informed and inspired you to add some pizzazz to your wedding ceremony and incorporate this unique customization ritual.

5 Popular Unity Ceremony Ideas to Consider

5 popular Unity Ceremony Ideas to Consider

Make your wedding in Las Vegas more memorable. Consider some of the alternative, interesting and unique unity ceremonies.

1. Handfasting Unity Ceremony

Handfasting Unity Ceremony

The handfasting ceremony is an ancient Celtic ceremony which was a ritual practiced in the British Isles and Europe. It symbolizes the unbreakable bond between a man and woman in marriage. It actualizes the idea of “tying the knot,” an idiom often used to refer to weddings. The wedding ritual is a simple yet distinctive way of making your wedding official – an interesting way to make your Las Vegas wedding permanent. There is no set rule for how many cords are used. You may use one cord if you like. If using more than two or three colors, ribbons may be easier to use than cords and less expensive. Each of the cord colors has its own special symbolic meaning. The cords can be several colors twisted into one cord and used for a single cord ceremony. If you prefer, up to six cords can be draped individually to tie your hands together loosely.

Items list:

Each cord should be at least 48″ (4 ft.) long, so the ends can all be tied together. For more than two or three colors, ribbon usually works better than cord or rope.

Forever Together Seattle shares the meaning of the colors of the cords as follows:

• Red: Will, love, strength, fertility, courage, health, vigor, passion.
• Orange: Encouragement, adaptability, stimulation, attraction, plenty, kindness.
• Yellow: Attraction, charm, confidence, balance, harmony.
• Green: Fertility, luck, prosperity, nurturing, beauty, health, love.
• Blue: Safe journey, longevity, strength.
• Purple: Healing, health, strength, power, progress.
• Black: Strength, empowerment, wisdom/vision, success, pure love.
• White: Spiritual purity, truth, peace, serenity and devotion.
• Gray: Balance, neutrality, used in erasing, canceling, neutralizing, and return to the universe without
• Pink: Love, unity, honor, truth, romance, happiness.
• Brown: Healing,, skills and talent, nurturing, home and hearth, the earth.
• Silver: Creativity, inspiration and vision, and protection.
• Gold: Unity, longevity, prosperity, strength.

In case you and your partner are wondering, hands-fasting doesn’t make your wedding a restricting bond. Rather, the symbolism of the ties that bind is intended to remind the both of you that marriage makes being there for one another as more than just an obligation – it is an agreement borne out of your souls’ perpetual connection with one another.

View a Handfasting ceremony for unity here

2. Glass-Breaking Unity Ceremony

Glass breaking ceremony

The glass breaking ceremony stands as an important rite of passage signifying the lasting endurance of marriage. It is a traditional part of a Jewish ceremony however many couples are integrating this meaningful ritual into their ceremony.

Items needed:

• Easily breakable small glass or plastic wine glass
• White napkin to wrap the glass

The glass or plastic glass is wrapped in a towel. At the end of the ceremony the best man will place the wrapped glass at the feet of the groom who steps on the glass and breaks it. At the end of the ceremony, once the groom breaks the glass, the guests shout together, “Mazel Tov!” which is a Jewish phrase meaning congratulations or good luck. The symbolism of this ritual compares the difficulty of reassembling the shattered glass pieces back together to the fragility of love. Glass-breaking, of course, helps signify in thought, that the fragile nature of glass introduces feelings of resolve to make relationships work – quite like a symbol that reminds you and your spouse that your marriage will last forever.

View more information about a glass breaking ceremony here

3. Unity Wine Ceremony

Wine Wedding Ceremony

Photo by Muffet

The wine pouring ritual is a unity ceremony that typically uses alcohol, specifically wine, as a symbolic means of solemnizing a marriage. This ritual remains a novel idea.

Items needed:

• An eclectic mix of two kinds of wine: red and white
• A goblet or special cup to drink from

This wine-pouring ceremony involves the bride and groom taking turns drinking from a “common cup,” in which both red and white wine is combined. The said combination promises both an abundance of love, embodied by the red wine, and everlasting strength of marriage, represented by the white wine. Here is a link to Unity Wine Ceremony sets on Amazon  or View a Unity Wine ceremony here

4. Unity Cross Ceremony Unity Cross Wedding Ceremony The unity cross is a unique unity ceremony idea to be implemented into a religious ceremony. The symbolism represents the joining of two lives into one blessed by the love of God.

Items Needed:

• An outside cross frame with a base
• Inner sculpted cross to fit into outside frame

There are two pieces of the cross. The parts are assembled during the unity service. The groom takes the outer cross and places it in the wood base. The bride proceeds to place the sculpted cross inside the outer cross. Most couples will display the cross in their home after the wedding to serve as a reminder of their vows and wedding day and unity with God. View a unity cross ceremony example here

5. Rose-Exchange Unity Ceremony

Rose Presentation Ritual
The rose has long been a symbol of love. Roses fit the scene of every wedding. This ceremony has proven to be a ceremony idea for unity.

Items Needed:

• Two rose presentations or rose buds to exchange simultaneously

Giving a rose to the love of your life may take on a world of lovely meanings: “I love you with all my heart,” and “you’re very special to me” being among the words you may intend to say. When done as a wedding ritual, rose-giving enables you to express your feelings of everlasting love even when you’re already at a loss for words.

View  Unity rose exchange ceremony examples here

Visit more ceremony explanations here.

Rev. Nourish is a Las Vegas wedding officiant who will help you customize your wedding ceremony and tailor it to your needs with each ceremony.  She has over 20 years experience creating and performing weddings in Las Vegas.

Contact Julie to request more information. 

Helpful Questions to Hire a Las Vegas Wedding Officiant

Get help hiring a Las Vegas wedding officiant

Las Vegas wedding officiant

So you two have decided to tie the knot and now you are approaching the big event. It is time for the big decisions to be made. 

If you are not planning on using your own wedding officiant you know, you may need to interview a potential Las Vegas wedding officiant you don’t know. This might leave you feeling apprehensive, left scratching your head figuring out where to start.

Below are some tips on how to select the Las Vegas officiant that will make your wedding just the way you mean it to be.

Whoever you choose should offer the option to meet with you or at least have a phone consultation before your wedding.

Sometimes it’s not an option to meet your wedding officiant before the wedding day.  That ends up being a common experience in Vegas because of the nature of the city and dynamics of scheduling a wedding in Las Vegas.

A meeting to talk about the ceremony will be beneficial but if you are in a situation where you can’t meet with the Las Vegas wedding officiant consider a phone consultation or a Skype meeting. A professional officiant will be able to offer you useful tools to help you along and keep in touch with you during the wedding planning process as well.

If you do decide to meet and have the time your fiance should be at this meeting as well. This article gives you useful directions and tips to help you and  your fiance think through the important questions to ask your officiant or Las Vegas Minister. 

Come prepared to ask questions and talk to your fiance beforehand.  This will help you to have an understanding of the common questions you both have and what is most important to you.

 I am passing along my experience to you. Below are some questions I have found most couples have asked me:

1. Are you legally licensed to perform a marriage at the current location?

2.What are the options for customizing a ceremony? What is the process?

3. How much do you charge? What services does this include? 

4. How much freedom are the bride and groom allowed to do what they want to do in the ceremony?

5. What interested you in doing this work?  Hong long have you been a wedding officiant?

6. How many weddings do you do in a day?

7. Do you have a plan B if you are not able to be at the wedding?

When the Las Vegas wedding officiant asks about your ceremony, here are some things you can be prepared to talk about that might be helpful to you:

• What is the name of the location and address where the ceremony will take place?

• How many quests do you expect at the ceremony?

• How many people are in the wedding party (any children)?

• Your music selection for the procession and recession?

• Traditions you and your fiance don’t like? Things that you do like?

• Your views on marriage vows – and if you will write your own vows or do something traditional?

• How long do you want the ceremony to last?

• Any considerations you want to make regarding parents’ expectations?

• Any ethnic traditions or religious traditions you need or want to include in the ceremony?

• Any ideas you may have gotten from other weddings?


Las Vegas wedding officiantThe ceremony is the most meaningful part of the service

Naturally, if you have been going to a certain church for a very long time it is only customary that you use your current pastor or clergy person to perform the service for your ceremony. This is almost a must if both of you have grown up in the same church and you know the minister at the church personally.  The minister may then incorporate something personal and private that they know about you into the ceremony.

Click this Las Vegas bridal resource to learn more about Las Vegas wedding ceremony planning.

Ask your officiant if they provide a questionnaire:

Some officiants will provide a method to get to know you more personally and make your ceremony unique.  For instance, I offer questions that help the couple think about their relationship such as when did you know you wanted to be together forever, among others. This method will help your officiant to tailor and customize the ceremony to your specific love story and relationship. 

To view a powerful Las Vegas ceremony resource, visit my article and learn how to write your wedding vows here.  

Ceremony choices available?  Does the Vegas officiant have a collection of ceremonies to choose from? I have been performing and creating wedding ceremonies since 1996. In that time I have collected an archive of different and unique ceremony options for couples to choose from. It’s not always necessary to have a long ceremony to make it unique and meaningful. In fact, many couples prefer a shorter ceremony of 10 minutes because they are having an outdoor Vegas wedding and it can be hot in Vegas. 

View this article I wrote about 5 popular unity wedding ceremonies you may choose from click here to view the description of these Las Vegas ceremony choices. 

Mobile Minister Las Vegas

There are many wedding officiants in Las Vegas that will travel to your location and provide mobile wedding services.  It is best to be clear about your expectations when you set out to interview your intended officiant. Will you be needing a pre-consultation?  Will you be needing the officiant to organize and perform a wedding rehearsal for you?  Hiring an officiant that has experience in these areas is of utmost importance. 

Look over this helpful Las Vegas DIY wedding rehearsal wedding article we created.  It gives you a very useful ceremony resource to help you understand what the rehearsal will entail and what questions to ask the officiant who will be guiding you in your rehearsal. 

A wedding officiant contract option: 

How much should you pay a wedding officiant?  Ultimately to answer this question it is best to consider the following elements:

  1. Will you be needing a pre-consultation? If so, it is only fair to give a reasonable compensation for their time spent with you and traveling to meet you.  
  2. Will they be customizing your ceremony?  When customization is done, it takes extra time and professionalism to create a unique ceremony for you.  Typically an officiant will charge anywhere from $50 – $100 extra to customize a service for you.
  3. Will you be needing a rehearsal?  Rehearsals take expertise and knowledge to perform.  There are many elements involved. The wedding officiant you choose should have experience helping you prepare and the ability to pull it together for you.  Typically, the extra time helping you plan, to include travel time is anywhere from $50 to $100 depending on how far they have to travel and if it’s done right before the ceremony on the same day or the day before the wedding, for example. 

Considering your relatives’ wishes:

This is a very important day in both of your lives but you may also want to take into consideration the feelings of your parents and the grandparents. They want everything to be perfect too. This day is the day where they get to show off their daughter or son and their new daughter in law or new son in law. People will come from miles and miles away just to get a glimpse of the bride and groom. Consider it to be a status symbol for the family and therefore it does matter how it is presented. 

What is the next step to confirm?  If you liked the person you interviewed, what is the next step?

You will probably need to put a deposit down to reserve their services. 

If you do decide to hire someone you interviewed, it is a professional courtesy to inform the other officiants you might have also interviewed you made a decision. Using the email for this is fine. Many people don’t do this but it is a very thoughtful and nice gesture.