The Love Letter and Wine Box Ceremony:
Are you looking for an idea that will attract the attention of your guests, add some elegance to your wedding and make it worth reminiscing for years to come? You can call the love letter wine box ceremony an alternative to the commonly practiced Unity Sand and Unity Candle Ceremony. The following article is a vivid description of how to perform the traditional Wine box ceremony and ideas to help inspire you to write your love letter to the future love of your life.
My name is Julie Nourish. I am a mobile Las Vegas wedding officiant. I have been performing the love letter and wine box ceremony since it became a popular addition to the wedding ceremony.
I have experienced the wine box ceremony in many different ceremony styles. I often get questions from my wedding couples asking what this ritual addition is and what it means. I decided to write this article as a resource to assist and educate with creative ideas and information.
Love Letter Wine Box Ceremony explained:
As the most popular and equally romantic wedding day ritual, Wine box ceremony entails writing romantic letters to each other and storing them for the future. The two sealed letters are tucked away, inside a special box, along with a bottle of wine, and the box is tightly sealed.
The original idea is to open it when the couple experiences some misunderstandings and fights. However, as a suggestion, why not be more positive and focus less on the misunderstanding and fights in your relationship and more the celebration aspect? I think it’s a great idea to open the box on one of your wedding’s anniversaries.
Items you will need for the ceremony
- A wooden wine box
- A bottle of your best brand of wine
- Two sealed love letters
- A CD of your favorite love songs and your best photo
- A hammer with nails
Ideas to inspire the letter writing: Here are some ideas and questions to ask yourself to help you prepare and be inspired to write the letter to your intended.
- What were your first thoughts when you saw your partner for first time?
- What is your favorite attribute about your fiancé?
- How did this affect your life?How did your life change after you met your fiancé? How did you change?
- How has your fiancé inspired your hopes and aspirations?
- What are the reasons you fell in love with your partner?
- Why did you choose to marry your fiancé?
- How has your fiancé changed you – explain in the letter and give praise.
Reasons to open and share the contents:
1. Open the box on your 5th wedding anniversary – After five years together you have gone through a great deal together. By this time you will have a lot to share, remember and talk about. This is truly a romantic way to remember the things you cherished about each other from the beginning of your relationship.
2. Open it when problems exist – You sit down together, open it and uncork the wine as you unseal the two letters. I have read explanations that suggest you to move to different rooms to read each respective letter. I think it may be more suitable to read it in the same room. After all, the point is trying to work out your problems with the other person. Wouldn’t it be better to read through them together and remember the reasons you love each other and got married in the first place? The idea is to bury the hatchet and focus on why you chose to be married to each other and spark the remembrance of the love you held when you began your wedding journey together.
Perfect ritual: The feelings and romantic sentiments expressed through writing will invariably restore parity and help you get along again. It is perhaps a perfect marriage ritual as it elicits memories of the seemingly blissful past and why you chose each other.
Don’t peak! Remember, both letters shouldn’t have been read by anyone before the ceremony. The box will then be sealed ceremoniously with everyone including the Officiant driving one of the sealing nails. If you had used a lock-and-key box, the couple would be the ones to lock it.
Practice: I have noticed it does make a difference to practice how you will stand and where the table will be ahead of time. The practice helps your photos turn out better if you consider the photo angles that look best before the big day
Table placement: Make sure the table is not positioned too low down. It’s better to have the table be waist height. You both want to be able to stand at the table without being in awkward positions and a table that is too low makes the nailing or locking part too awkward. Also, take into consideration how the audience will view the ceremony and position yourselves on either side of the table during the ceremonious sealing of the box. If you do this your guests will be able to have a great view and also take memorable photos for you.
A Sample Love Letter and Wine Box Ceremony
Minister: At this time I will ask ________ and _________ to walk to the Wine box.
_____ and _____ have chosen as a couple to have a Love Letter & Wine Box ceremony. This box contains a bottle of wine and a love letter from each to the other.
The letters written by __________ and __________ describe among many things, the good qualities they find in one another, the reasons they fell in love, and their reasons for choosing to marry.
The letters are sealed in individual envelopes. Neither person has seen what the other has written. They have created your very own “romantic” time capsule.
_________ and __________, it is recommended that you keep the box in a place of honor prominently displayed in your home as a constant reminder of your commitment to each other.
You may decide to open the time capsule on your anniversary if you ever experience insurmountable hardships in your union, open the box as a couple and perform the ritual.
At whatever time you decide to open it, separate from each other and read the letters you wrote on your wedding day in private first. By reading these love letters you will reflect upon the reasons you fell in love and chose to marry each other here today.
Then after reading your letters sit and drink the wine together and reminisce and speak of the good things to come and the blessings you have.
You may now seal the box together.
In closing, perhaps you will be inspired to have a love letter and wine box ceremony for your wedding.
I hope this article has both informed and inspired you to add some pizzazz to your wedding ceremony and incorporate this unique customization ritual.
Hi Julie, I attended a wedding where the couple had a love letter wine box ceremony. I thought it was such a romantic idea. I especially like the part of the ceremony where they get to write a letter to each other about why they love one another and the read it on their anniversary later.
I want to have this in my ceremony some day. How romantic!
Hi Maurine, I agree with you. This ceremony addition is especially romantic. Who wouldn’t want to look back and remember one of the most important days of one’s life and share a glass of wine with your special someone on your anniversary?
I saw your article when browsing the internet and just wanted to comment. I attended a friend’s wedding last year and saw this ceremony performed. It’s absolutely romantic and I loved it. If anyone is thinking about this for their ceremony, I highly recommend it.
Thank you for your comment, Natalie! I agree this ceremony is also one of my favorites. It’s very romantic and I love the element of including some future romantic interaction to look forward to as well.
I found your article recently about the love letter and wine box ceremony. This is a great article! It inspired me to use it in my own ceremony next year. I am not having the ceremony in Vegas but if I was I would have you do the ceremony.
Thank you for your kind comment Georgia. I do love this ceremony and its significant meaning. I think it will be a great addition to your ceremony.
I love the concept of this ceremony addition. We both love to share a good bottle of wine and are romantic. Thanks for sharing this idea! I am going to use this for my ceremony now.
Thanks for giving your feedback Victoria. I love this ceremony too. I think it adds so much to the ceremony and personalizes it. One of the best aspects about it is you have something to look forward to in the future. It’s like a time capsule.
This is a really neat idea! It looks like such a beautiful ceremony and I think it would be wonderful in a wedding. I have seen similar things done at some of the weddings I have been to and they just make the entire wedding more special and memorable. I’ll be sure to share this idea with my friend who just got engaged!
Yes, it is a really wonderful unity ceremony and it’s unique too. Plus after so many years, whenever they decide to open up the box and pop the cork, they will have such fun reminiscing about their wedding day. It is meant to rekindle the feelings they had on their wedding day and I think it works! Thanks for commenting and sharing the idea Sarah!